There are tons of bisexual characters in media - even if they don't always tell you they're bi. Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy have been known to play for both teams; Euphoria features tons of teens going every which way when it comes to gender attraction; David Rose on Schitt's Creek didn't limit his love interests based on gender.

What there's decidedly less of, however, is these characters actually saying they're bisexual out loud in a way that feels natural - either the well-intended announcement feels entirely shoe-horned in and out of context, or, more commonly, the character does something to indicate that they're bisexual only for it never to be spoken of aloud.

A lot of this, of course, used to be due to television censors and stigma; up until very recently, it was considered taboo to even talk about being bisexual, and even supposed "allies" have been known to dismiss bisexuality as - in the words of classic Sex and The City brand Carrie Bradshaw, "a layover on the way to Gaytown" - or, if you'd prefer the words of Liz Lemon from 30 Rock, "just something they invented in the '90s to sell hair products. Even other gay people looked down their noses at the B in LGBTQ - Gay cornerstone series The L Word once referred to bisexuality as "gross."

Today's media, however, is slowly changing that. More and more now, television characters are allowed to be proudly and unabashedly bi - and one such character, as she so proudly declared in tonight's finale, is Rose from the OWN series Kings of Napa.

The series, about a Black family who owns a vineyard in Napa, is filled with drama, twists, and turns - and yes, a lot of toxic attitudes that need to be checked.

WARNING: Spoilers below!

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One of those attitude's belongs to eldest child Dana, whose struggle under the pressures brought on by his father's death as he debates having children of his own lead to a blowup between himself and his wife - who, as you may recall, was just making out with this cousin/sister Brigitte last week. (Which he saw. And pretended he didn't see. Until this moment we're about to talk about.)

Rose, having just found out that her husband had a vasectomy and failed to tell her, despite her getting hormone treatments in order to try to have a baby with him, is rightfully pissed off by the end of this episode. When she leaves, and he snidely comments that he always knew she'd go back to girls - classic biphobia - she puts him in his place, telling him that her bisexuality is not the reason she's leaving - he is.

"I wanted it to be modern, and I wanted people to understand where characters were coming from," showrunner Janine Sherman Barrois explained to us in an interview. "A lot of times people view it as "confusion," and I wanted to un-confuse the people who don't understand.

"I think it's important - sometimes characters can tell you about themselves, sometimes they don't need to tell you about themselves, and in that moment I wanted people to understand who Rose was, what her relationship with Dana was, but also what her relationships with other women were."

Barrois and the rest of the team working on the show did that perfectly - they set up that Rose was bi simply by allowing her to kiss Brigitte, but it wasn't then hidden away like a shameful secret of the show - she talks about it when the moment demands it, exactly the way it would happen in real life.

"One of my good friends, she called me after an episode,' Barrois explained, to highlight exactly the kind of confusion she hopes to eliminate. "She was like 'so wait a second, is Brigitte gay? Is she queer? Cause she never said it!' and I was like 'Yeah, well why would she say it? She is, but why would she tell you?' I don't know, I was like, 'you wanted a memo? You just learned!'

Just as it's refreshing, in Kings of Napa, whose struggles are not necessarily simply because of their Black identities, it's also refreshing to see a bi woman simply existing and living her life in a show that's not necessarily about being queer. This is the beauty of thinking intersectionally - of thinking like a fellow human, and not in terms of demographics - and it's beautiful.

This show is breaking barriers by being completely real, and that's literally what television is for. If you'd like to see what we mean, you can now watch all of Season 1 of Kings of Napa on OWN.com with your cable password, or rent it on Apple or Amazon.