WARNING:  If you haven't seen "Gone Girl," do not read this post.  It's full of spoilers.

So, let's just start with this.  The movie, "Gone Girl" starring Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike, was completely amazing.  It is surely going to be a contender in the upcoming award season.  But, as a person who never read the book- after seeing it and not knowing what to expect- the thought of getting into a relationship is actually as terrifying as the movie itself.  But, in between all of the gory scenes, scary movie music and jaw-droppings twists, there are some vital relationship lessons to be learned.

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Again, if you have not seen this movie, do not read this post and go see the movie.  It's one of those table-talk-conversation-starters that you will have to leave the room for if you don't.  And no one likes that guy.

So, before you enter your next relationship, keep in mind what Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike taught you in "Gone Girl."

1.  Love is powerful and all-consuming.  Don't you dare play with it.  The real reason why "Amazing Amy" snapped is because the man she fell in love with cheated on her and fell out of love.  When real love is challenged, the thin line between love and hate only gets thinner. 

2.  Pay attention to your husband/wife/significant other.  The police badgered Nick about the details of his wife's personal life.  He had no idea who her friends were, her blood type or what she did during the day.  Amy's plan was so easy for her to execute because her husband was never around. 

3.  Honesty is the best policy.  Being a human means you will make mistakes, horrible and painful ones, but nothing hurts more than being lied to by someone you love.  (Note:  Because of Amy's past history in torturing the men who hurt her, Nick Dunne's tragic plotline might not have changed.)  Still, the truth will always get you further -- in the long run-- than a lie.

4.  Exes are exes for a reason.  Amy immediately ran to her ex-boyfriend Desi Collings (played by Neil Patrick Harris) when she was robbed and left for dead by her new trailer-park family.  But, his controlling ways were probably why she did not marry him in the first place.  And then she killed him.  COME ON!  Leave the past in the past, people.

5.  Relationships, good ones, can overcome obstacles.  Now, this is not to suggest that if your significant cheats on you, you fake your own death and frame them for murder-- BUT never doubt how strong your bond is.  A lot of people avoid the "I Cheated" talk because they think if they keep it to themselves, their indiscretions will disappear.  NOT TRUE.  The truth always comes to the light.  Like Nick's little girlfriend did in the movie.

6.  Having a baby will not necessarily save your relationship.  In some messed up way, Amy thought that inseminating herself with her estranged-then-reunited-kind of-husband's semen would save their marriage and in fear of his life, he stayed.  (OR there could be a sequel/second book in the works, who knows.)  But, babies are hard work and usually put more stress on a couple because you are no longer each other's priority. 

What else did you learn?  Let us know in the comments, below.

Did anyone else get nightmares after seeing that?  Yea, sorry you had to see it again.

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