Gabrielle Union has revealed just how tough her pregnancy struggle is in her new book.

The actress, who is married to NBA star Dwyane Wade, took to her new book We’re Going to Need More Wine, to open up about her experience with infertility.

“I have had eight or nine miscarriages,” she wrote in an excerpt obtained by PEOPLE. “For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant – I’ve ever been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.”

Union added that she and Wade are getting through it together and “remain bursting with love and ready to do anything to meet the child we’ve both dreamed of.”

Wade is father to three boys (Zaire, 15, Zion, 10, and Xavier, 3, including a nephew he adopted, Dahveon Morris, 16.

Interestingly enough, Union wrote that helping raise the three sons, is what sparked her desire to become a mother herself.

“I never wanted kids,” she said. “Then I became a stepmom and there was no place I’d rather be than with them. “For so many women, and not just women in the spotlight, people feel very entitled to know, ‘Do you want kids?’ A lot of people, especially people that have fertility issues, just say ‘no’ because that’s a lot easier than being honest about whatever is actually going on. People mean so well, but they have no idea the harm or frustration it can cause.”

She went on to say that she looks like she’s actually in her second trimester every month because the fertility treatments leave her “bloated.”

“It leads to the questions and it leads to the rumors and anytime I go into the doctor’s office I feel like I’m a member of SEAL Team Six undercover because I don’t want people to speculate.”

We’re Going to Need More Wine hits shelves Oct. 17.

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